On a website where the URL is Missoptimistic, you are bound to read something about the perspective of women in society.
Once the doctor identifies your gender, you are already expected to stay within a “gender box”. A gender box is the limitations you are subjected to once your biological gender is announced. For males, they have to be masculine, strong, and emotionless. Females on the other hand have to be feminine, dependent, domestic. But it’s 2017 now, people are more open to change–right?
When I look at my friends, I see beautiful women who are bound to succeed. However, when they see themselves they see faults that I’ve never seen. Then I realize that I do the exact same thing to myself. I found myself looking in the mirror and seeing pimples, fat, and dark spots. I compared myself to other women and tried to find ways to be like them. I even went far enough to over-eating so that my butt would get bigger.
Then I finally figured out why I was doing these things. I was trying change my image to fit the requirements of what men wanted, but I’ve never really cared about my image until my senior year of high school. The most hardworking women I know never really spent that much time primping and powdering so I never found myself needing to do it. But I still found myself craving male attention.
Ew. That was weird. I was always independent. I’ve done things myself but seeing everyone in a relationship kind of made me want the same thing. I stopped myself and thought about the purpose of my new borderline addiction and came to 3 conclusions.
1: Whoever I choose to be with should love me for who I am and shouldn’t try to change me into someone that I am not, so there is no need to change myself for them.
2: I should only change into something that I want to be.
3: Relationships are only a good thing if you love who you are when you’re with your partner.
I body shamed myself more than any person did. It was me who told myself that I wasn’t pretty enough or that my body wasn’t sexy enough for a man. I put a hold to my over eating and starting doing things that made me happy like reading books and eating vegetables.
The female image is constantly getting objectified and over-sexualized and women are buying into it. They don’t need men to do it because we’re doing it to ourselves.
We need to love ourselves as we are. Fuck the female image! We cannot be built or manufactured. We need to accept ourselves for how we were born and if there’s something we don’t like about ourselves, it is our decision to change it.
We are the keepers of our temples, so make sure that you are maintaining that temple by your own standards.
